Can I let you in on a secret? I haven’t always been the person I am today. Until recently I lived a very small life controlled by fear. I let the fear of criticism, rejection, and failure hold me back from reaching my full potential for close to 40 years.
This website is a perfect example. A few years before I launched, I had taken a journey to find clarity in my life. I knew then that this was something I desperately wanted to explore. Still, it took me three and a half years to finally do it. Today I want to share what pushed me over the edge.
I have a file on my laptop labeled writing. That file contains dozens of articles I wrote over the course of two years for that blog I never started. I did the work, but I was so terrified about what people would say, that I never published any of it.
Each time I dropped something in that file, a pit in my stomach grew bigger and bigger. That pit was regret. I knew deep down that if I didn’t find the courage to leap, I would regret it for the rest of my life.
Three years, six months, and eight days after deciding that this was what I wanted to do, I finally did it. This was my inspiration, a quote attributed to Mark Twain.Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do, than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. Click To Tweet
Each week, we are faced with countless decisions. Should I go to that meeting? How can I find time to go to workout? When can I throw that dinner party? How much of my bonus check should I put into savings? Is it time to change my career path?
When facing these decisions, ask yourself, If I don’t make this happen, will I regret it?When facing these decisions, ask yourself, If I don't make this happen, will I regret it? Click To Tweet
When we see life as day by day snapshots, the best choice almost always appears to be the easiest choice. But when we look at life as a movie and see today as just one of the acts, we are able to see the long-term consequences of our decisions. And at the end of our lives, one of the scariest consequences is regret.
The easy choice is to stay in our career that’s not the best fit so that we can keep the paychecks coming. It’s easier to skip the gym and let off some steam with your buddies at happy hour. But what are the consequences 20 years from now? Will you regret not spending your life pursuing what you were called to do? Will you regret the physical ailments that came as a result of not taking care of your body?
Starting this blog wasn’t easy. In fact, putting yourself out there is downright terrifying. But when I asked myself what I will I regret not doing, the answer was clear. Writing and helping people find the courage, clarity, and confidence to love their whole lives has been one of my biggest dreams for years. Today’s the day I push past the fear and let go of regret.Today's the day I push past the fear and let go of regret. Click To Tweet
Here I go, sailing away from safe harbor. I would love to have you join me. And let’s never forget to enjoy the journey.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in October 2015 and was the very first post to appear on my blog. It has been revamped for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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